Nippon no pan ja nai!

Our Okinawa Apartment

Here's how we livin' in Okinawa. By American standards, our apartment is incredibly small for two people but would be fine for a single. We were told that this is a "typical" Japanese apartment, and we haven't visited very many other locals or fellow JETs at home, so we're not sure how ours measures up. It's certainly inexpensive and conveniently located.  :)

The view from the outside! We're on the third floor.

The view from the outside! We're on the third floor.

Looking down at the street from the third floor.

Looking down at the street from the third floor.

The famous LDK: Living, dining, kitchen. From here you can only see the "LD" part.

The famous LDK: Living, dining, kitchen. From here you can only see the "LD" part.

The Japanese have an apartment code just like we do. You know how we all know what things like "3 BDRM" mean? The Japanese all know what 3LDK means. Eric and I have a 2LDK, which means we have 2 tatami rooms and a single room called an LDK, or living/dining/kitchen. The tatami rooms have tatami mats (seen in upcoming photos) on the floor, and rooms are measured by how many standard-sized tatami mats can fit in that room. (They don't use square meters like we use square feet.) In general, tatami rooms are used as family rooms, bedrooms, and rooms to entertain guests.

Now with a person there so you can see the actual size of our "LD"...

Now with a person there so you can see the actual size of our "LD"...

Convection oven (basically a microwave and an actual oven put together) and rice cooker

Convection oven (basically a microwave and an actual oven put together) and rice cooker

View of the two tatami rooms and the moveable barrier between them. You could open up the sliding wooden doors in the middle and have one big room, or you can separate them into 2 rooms. Note the tatami mats on the floor.

View of the two tatami rooms and the moveable barrier between them. You could open up the sliding wooden doors in the middle and have one big room, or you can separate them into 2 rooms. Note the tatami mats on the floor.

One tatami room with futons stacked on the floor for sleeping.

One tatami room with futons stacked on the floor for sleeping.

The other tatami room with fold-up couch and TV

The other tatami room with fold-up couch and TV

"Wide shot" of the "DK" kitchen area... (The shot is wider than the actual area.)

"Wide shot" of the "DK" kitchen area... (The shot is wider than the actual area.)

Sink/dishwashing area, and fridge.

Sink/dishwashing area, and fridge.

Portable gas stove and strategic hooks where we keep things we have no room for.

Portable gas stove and strategic hooks where we keep things we have no room for.

2 bathrooms, no waiting! This is our shower bathroom. It's decently sized. Photo 1.

2 bathrooms, no waiting! This is our shower bathroom. It's decently sized. Photo 1.

The rest of the shower bathroom. Photo 2.

The rest of the shower bathroom. Photo 2.

The toilet bathroom. Contains a super tiny sink and some tension rods we use for our linens. CLASSY!!

The toilet bathroom. Contains a super tiny sink and some tension rods we use for our linens. CLASSY!!

Our balcony is the only part of our apt. that's bigger than average! It's nice and deep and has our washer and lines for drying.

Our balcony is the only part of our apt. that's bigger than average! It's nice and deep and has our washer and lines for drying.

My predecessor left us with lots of beautiful plants and flowers that have bloomed throughout the year. Gorgeous!

My predecessor left us with lots of beautiful plants and flowers that have bloomed throughout the year. Gorgeous!

Sakura in Mitaka, Tokyo

Here are a few photos of behind the Studio Ghibli museum. When Kelly and I visited tokyo it was after the "peak" season for Hanami, Cherry Blossom viewing season but there were a lot of trees still in bloom. I took a bunch of photos near the imperial palace but most didn't turn out well, unfortunately. Enjoy!

Wedding post update

Take a look at the gorgeous photo the bride emailed to me! This is the first dress she appeared in during the reception, but not the first dress she wore that day. To the ceremony, she wore a traditional Ryukyuan kimono; I saw a photo of it, and it was awesome!


You haven't been to a wedding until you've been to an Okinawan wedding!

     The library teacher at one of the elementary schools I teach at invited me to her wedding, which was this past Saturday (March 15). In Japan, only family and possibly very close friends attend the actual wedding ceremony, but MANY others are invited to the reception, including co-workers, friends, distant family, etc. So sadly I can't comment on what a wedding ceremony here in Okinawa looks like, but boy, do I have some comments on the reception!! Hang on to your hats!! (Quick side comment: I sure wish I could give you more photos of this astonishing event, but the room was dimly lit most of the time, and it was such a large room that my little iPhone camera just couldn't keep up. If I'm able to see the bride's professional pictures at work, I will try to take photos of those and share if possible.)

     FYIs BEFORE THE WEDDING:

Wedding gift envelope. The top says something like, Congratulations on your wedding!! And down below in the smaller writing is the couples' names. A friend wrote those for me.

Wedding gift envelope. The top says something like, Congratulations on your wedding!! And down below in the smaller writing is the couples' names. A friend wrote those for me.

  • If you verbally commit to coming, you're expected to be there! There is no RSVP card in your invitation. Brides and grooms here have to speak to everyone on their guest list personally to know if they will be attending.
  • Spouses and families of the guests aren't invited unless the bride or groom specifically invites them. As a co-worker of the bride, it was only me she was inviting. Eric had to sit this event out.
  • Couples don't register for things here or have wedding showers. When it comes to wedding gifts, everyone brings money. And this is no chump change, either; everyone brings a minimum of 10000 yen (about $100) in a fancy envelope. With about 300 people at this wedding bringing these gifts, you can get a sense of why the couple was able to have such a fabulous wedding!!

OK, on to the reception itself!! I think my jaw hit the floor about ten times during the three hours I was there, so I'd like to try to convey that sense of confused awe by going with a stream-of-consciousness reporting of the sights, sounds, and HUH!?!? of this event.

  • Oh, my goodness. The bride's dress is absolutely stunning. Her hair looks perfect and she looks like a beautiful princess. Her new husband looks like he just stepped out of a boy band photo shoot. They have to stand up there at the head table in front of tons of cameras (professional movie camera size and regular camera size as well) and smile and look awesome while they are announced by the professional announcer. Their faces appear on the four enormous video screens situated around the room. Done and done.
  • Hey, I'm sitting at my table. At least I know these folks from school, and there's another assistant English teacher there, so one person speaks English! Yays. Hey, where'd the bride and groom go?
  • OK, now I'm being asked to go backstage. Huh?! So soon?! I knew I was going to be drafted into a dance number, but right away? What? Everyone else has school shirts to wear? I have none... Guess I'll just wear my dress up there. Oh, they all know the dance and have been practicing but I couldn't because I'm only at that school one day a week? Well, OK, here we go!! Camera people, you getting all this?? (Our little troupe followed the mothers of the bride and groom, who did a traditional fan dance, and a big group of teachers who did an AKB48 number while wearing school uniforms and ties. After us came another traditional dancer. This is all before we've even been there 20 minutes.)
  • A video is starting... What am I seeing here? People wearing masks of the bride and the groom are walking around the school doing adorable things. Since she's a library teacher, she finds him in the stacks and "checks him out" with the scanner. Awww!! I feel like I'm in a dance club... The music is constant and pretty loud. Oh, wait, now it's a video made by the students talking about how much they love the bride and how awesome she is!! Adorbs.
  • Slide show time! Now we get to see the bride and groom as little kids, when they met, etc. This is something I can relate to; I've seen this before. Still with the music.
Rough idea of the bride's second dress

Rough idea of the bride's second dress

  • The professional announcer is talking again; everyone's turning toward the stage. Wowie!! The bride and groom are back! He changed his suit and has a hat on, but I don't think I can adequately describe her new dress. Super frou-frou, long train, blue and pink flowered, cowboy-style leather belt and hat trim. Words fail me. They're walking from table to table, lighting a candle in the center of each. When they get to the front, they light a huge candle.
The centerpiece candle lighting walkthrough

The centerpiece candle lighting walkthrough

  • Oh, here comes some food. Wow, looks great!! Lots of sashimi, a soup kind of like egg drop soup. Woah, this salad with a big shrimp with his eyes still in tastes really bitter! Think I'm going to leave that one. Oh, good, some meat and veggies, a fish pie in a pastry crust with a really good sauce. I'm holding my own in a convo with the teacher next to me! I've learned a lot of Japanese and can say more than just "the dog is under the table" now! Go, me
  • The principal is giving the first speech. No one's listening really... Everyone just keeps on talking away. Next speech, a friend of the groom's. Same thing for him. More slideshows, more dance numbers, I think from former students... Guys doing a comedy singing performance...
  • Hey, they're cutting the cake! Wow, they even feed little pieces to each other, too. (My fellow English speaker, who has married an Okinawan woman and lives here permanently and thus has been to many weddings, tells me that sometimes the cake you see is entirely fake except for the small bit the bride and groom eat! The real cake is in the back.)
  • It doesn't look like we're getting any cake, though, because the room has turned really dark and the music sounds kind of Egyptian. Dude, there's a guy up front lighting a big fire and sort of juggling it!! Unbelievable. Now the servers are lining up behind him, and he's pouring fire onto each of their platters, which hold an ice cream dessert that goes up in orange-and-blue flames!! They're bringing the platters to us so we can eat our dessert en flambé. It's basically just vanilla ice cream and cake with meringue on top, but seriously. Wow.
  • The bride and groom are giving speeches to their parents. Oh, people are getting teary! They're bowing to their parents and it's so sweet. (I later learned that the bride's speech was actually pretty funny, apologizing to her parents for being such a bad kid and giving them so much trouble!!)
  • Oh, what is this?? Everyone is getting up! I'm being pulled back on stage!! Not another dance number!! Oh, I'm safe! We're just dancing around the bride and groom and waving our hands all over the place. No skill required. People are throwing the groom up in the air mosh-pit style!! Glad they're not jeopardizing the bride's dress by doing that to her!
The wedding "favors" that every guest received

The wedding "favors" that every guest received

  • We're all lining up outside the banquet hall to thank the families and snap a quick pic w/ the happy couple. We also all receive a lovely gift to take home, which turns out to be five pieces of delicious baumkuchen, a German cake that's really popular here for some reason. Whew!!!

Well, I think this blog post is about as much sensory overload as the actual event!! It reminded me more of a high school prom than a wedding reception. It was just one thing after another, with no time to really talk to the people at your table and certainly no mingling time with the beautiful couple! I can't begin to imagine how exhausted they must have been afterward, if my own mental fatigue at the end of it is any indication. A few things I wonder, and if anyone knows, please do share: If Japanese couples really don't want to go this route (ie., the Super Bowl halftime route), do they have the social freedom to buck the system and do their wedding their own way? Or do family and societal expectations make it so this is kind of the only way to do it? And does what I've described differ much from mainland Japanese weddings??

My Visit to a School on an American Military Base

     Yesterday (January 8th), I got a rare privilege: the chance to see what school is like on an overseas military base. I visited Lester Middle School on Camp Lester* in Chatan, Okinawa, along with a large group of people, including the principal of Baten Elementary School (one of the Japanese schools I visit every week), one Baten teacher, the entire sixth grade of Baten, and another ALT (assistant language teacher, which is my job title here). 

     When we arrived on base, I thought there would have to be a detailed check of every name, every student, and every adult ID, but because we had prepared for this visit months in advance and because Baten does this "visit exchange" every year, we were waved in right away. (This is quite different from when you go on base as an individual. That can be a somewhat lengthy process with lots of ID checking and paperwork.) I look forward to later in the school year, when the American students will get the chance to see a day in the life of Baten Elementary! I think many mutual surprises are in store for everyone. (See my previous post on my observations of the differences between Japanese and American schools.)

     Every Japanese student was partnered with a Lester student, and for a few minutes both groups of kids got to bust out the self-introductions they had been practicing. The Japanese kids had worked on sentences like, "My name is...," "Where are you from?" and "Do you like... (fill in sport, food, or school subject of choice)?" I didn't expect this, but some of the American students had also tried to prepare a few sentences in Japanese! That was a lovely surprise. Then each pair went on a short tour of the school and then right into their normal class schedule. Whatever class the American student had at that time is the one the Japanese student got to attend. Some were able to see and use the American students' laptops, since Lester MS recently began a 1-to-1 laptop program this past fall for all students in grades 6-8.

     While all this was going on, the adults got to meet with the Lester principal and the registrar, who is Okinawan herself and was there to interpret for the Baten principal and teacher. We learned about their enrollment and the fairly high turnover they have in the student body each year as families come and go. They're a fairly large middle school, with about 450 kids currently attending. Another interesting fact we learned is that the government has recently added more counselors to their staff since the kids' parents are being sent on more and more deployments and are often gone for long periods. This surprised me since, in my ignorance about the military, I figured if you were already overseas, then that was your assignment for the duration!! I didn't realize you could be deployed yet again from an existing deployment here in Okinawa. Military kids clearly have a different set of challenges and concerns than the kids I'm used to teaching in the States. We also found out that many American kids seldom or never even leave the base while their parent or parents are stationed overseas, so this experience may be one of a very few where they actually get to interact with native Okinawan people.

     Lester MS is pretty much like any middle school you'd see anywhere in the U.S. They do have some cool classes you might not see everywhere, though; they offer Japanese culture (taught by a native), applied technology (which includes things like robotics, engineering, and video production), and Chinese and Spanish for foreign languages. Their library, I was pleased to see, had many of the latest hot titles my own U.S. sixth graders love, and I noticed that lots of the American students had copies of various Diary of a Wimpy Kid titles, thus proving that series' universal popularity with its target audience! That day the students had been holding a geography bee in the library, complete with professional cameras and recording equipment so the event could be shown via their school broadcasting station.

     Then we all had the adventure of a lifetime: Lunch in a middle school cafeteria! The Japanese students had never had this experience before, so it was a lot of fun to see them gamely trying the milk (pasteurized, unlike the milk at their own school and homes), the lasagna (surprisingly good), the pork tacos, and the frozen fruit desserts. Some Lester students were doing a survey for a class project, so the other teachers and I helped them out by answering a question or two.

     I wished the adults could have lurked in the background with the kids so we could see the interaction between the Japanese students and the American students in more detail, but we went on our own tour and mostly stayed separate from them. I did see some partner groups actually conversing, and when we took our group photo at the end, everyone looked really happy and excited. So I honestly hope both sets of kids had a great experience and genuinely took the opportunity to use their language skills and build a small cultural bridge.

*On the school's Web site, I just learned that the man for whom Camp Lester is named is from Downers Grove, IL!! Imagine that!  :)